High aspirations are easy to have … Making those dreams and goals a reality is a lot less easy.
The truth is, many of us struggle the most with the daunting repetition of day-in and day-out that yields the greatest results and makes the difference between success and failure.
It’s worth taking some time to dig deep and figure out what’s holding you back from reaching the next success level because once you’ve named the thing that’s holding you back, you have an opportunity to step over it and move on.
I’ve seen these same 5 self-destructive habits repeat themselves again and again in my years of experience mentoring and leading others toward their goals.
1. Leaving Others To Blame
Known also as: Making Excuses.
You have to take ownership of where you are right now before you can take charge of your life and move forward towards your goals.
And though there are dozens of factors involved in every aspect of where you are in life right now, it comes down to this: You’ve got the agency to change things, and no one can stop you from your own personal success.
Now is the time to stop blaming your boss, your spouse, or the jerk that cut you off in traffic and start finding ways to work with the tools you need to move forward now.
2. Forbid Your Safety
Your career, finances, and personal development goals may seem unrelated. But neglecting your health impacts deeply on every area of your life.
If you run on empty calories and coffee, you will not make the best choices for your future; you will make decisions based on an exhausted, less-than-best version of yourself.
Set yourself up for success by taking charge of your wellbeing, nutritionally feeding your days, and getting adequate sleep regularly.
Start small now by building healthy, consistent habits.
3. Remain In The Comfort Zone
Your area of comfort is comfortable. Once you settle in and realize there’s nothing forcing you to move, staying in your comfort zone becomes very easy, decorating it, kicking up your feet, and calling it a day.
Don’t do it.
Your dreams and ambitions will not happen until you get up and walk into the unknown where you might look foolish, experience uncomfortable situations, or find circumstances that are suddenly daunting waiting.
Learn how to find the courage to get out there from your comfort zone.
4. Never learn
The people who are the happiest and successful are the ones who are actively interested and learning.
If you read widely, dig deeper into your profession, or any subject you’re interested in, and interact with your goals and plans, you’re going to expand your outlook to one that could really get you where you’re going.
The second that you begin to feel as if you have accomplished enough is the second that you begin to dig your own grave. Be a lifelong learner. Render research an important part of your life. Your brain will be thankful for that.
5. Don’t Set Goals
Getting a vague visual plan of where you would like to be in five or ten years ‘ time is one thing. Another thing to write down concrete, observable, actionable goals you can start working on right now is something entirely different.
So take pen to paper, don’t be afraid to be a bit bold and write down SMART goals.